Self-confidence and obesity

I see myself as the thin girl I always was up until I was about 37 years old. Then I look in the mirror. It's always kind of a shock. Since I was a thin kid, my self esteem was built around my talents and abilities, which hasn't changed in my head even though I've doubled my weight in the last 10+ years. I still feel confident about my self worth, except I know I can't be a model any more. Besides that, I'm a grandma and have to color some stray gray hairs.

Anyway, I was thinking about obesity and self confidence. There are always exceptions, but in general, people who became overweight as adults usually have a self concept that gives others confidence in them regardless of their size. They believe in themselves, so others easily follow their leadership.

However, in general, adults who were overweight children and have always been overweight have a different world view. The cruelty and teasing of others often shattered their self esteem. They carry that lack of self confidence with them throughout their lives. They often weren't able to focus on other talents and abilities because of this.

And girls are hit harder than boys. And white girls are hit harder than black girls. I'm not being racist, just stating a fact. I see many chubby black girls in entertainment, where it is almost impossible for a chubby white girl to get a gig. For some reason, an overweight black girl can still be considered sexy where the same sized white girl isn't. I'm just wondering what the social reason for this is. I have no idea. Maybe black skin looks better than white skin no matter what.

And sometimes chubby boys are viewed as bigger and stronger, whereas girls aren't. I'm just saying.

So we need to help overweight kids find something they are really good at and can focus on to have confidence in themselves and exude that vibe to those around them. I am sick and tired of discrimination based on weight. And I've only been obese for a decade of my 47 years, but I feel for those who didn't get to be the skinny kid first, didn't get to develop a world view not based on their weight. It makes a lot of difference.

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